Mama’s boys: they’re either the bane of your existence or exactly the type of man you need in your life. Truth be told, mama’s boys can be attentive, nurturing, and respectful, or they can be your worst nightmare: childish, needy, and neglectful.
We’ve broken down the pros and cons, so what are we waiting for? Let’s see if a mama’s boy is the husband for you.
So, what are the benefits of marrying a mama’s boy?
Pro #1: He knows how to dress himself.
For most men, the thought of having to shop for a wedding suit is a daunting task. Even if your mama’s boy doesn’t have a huge eye for fashion, he will at least have confidence in finding the outfit that works for him.
It’s nice to know that he won’t be annoyed at the thought of picking out a wedding suit, and it’s even nicer knowing he can shop for clothes himself.
He’s done this his whole life by his mom’s side, so when he’s shopping at Black Tie Formalwear, you won’t have to force him into the dressing room.
Pro #2: He will treat you right.
It’s no lie that if a man loves and respects his mom, he will love and respect you as his partner.
He’s not ashamed to be the man you need him to be, because his mom taught him how to be a gentleman.
With foundations of progressive morals and good values, his love for his mother will complement your strong feminine spirit.
Pro #3: He sees you as his equal.
There’s nothing more annoying and damaging than dating someone who wants to control you and dominate your life. A man who loves his mom wasn’t raised in a male-dominated environment; he understands that people deserve respect no matter what their background is.
He’s willing to let you grow and become your own person through your career and social life; he won’t try to manipulate your decisions, and he will support you through the good times and the bad.
Pro #4: He knows the importance of communication.
Women are often more vocal about their emotions than men are. If your future husband is close to his mom, it means they’ve spent a lot of time together and in that time, he’s learned how women express their thoughts and emotions.
He’s ready to listen to what you have to say and be there for you when others can’t, because he knows that’s what you need from him.
A good listener means great communication and an even better relationship.
We’ve looked at the positives; now, what are the drawbacks of marrying a mama’s boy?
Con #1: She won’t like you…at first.
You’re walking into his life, about to marry him and take him from his mother forever — and that sounds like the last thing a mom wants for her son.
In her mind, she’s supposed to be the only woman he’ll ever need, and you might notice her acting strangely around both of you when you’re with him.
Don’t take it personally, because she just has to cope with this until she warms up to the fact that he’s starting a new life of his own with you.
Con #2: She will always be his mom.
A man who loves his mom more than anything will always look up to her as the ultimate role model. He looks up to you too, but sometimes it might feel like you’re being shoved to the side if he wants to meet her for lunch instead of you. Just remember that you’re his partner, his fiancee, his wife, et cetera — not her — and you’re always there for him when his mom isn’t.
Con #3: No one likes to be the middleman.
When you date and eventually marry a mama’s boy, you might begin realizing that this is an unwanted three-way relationship.
The fact is that your man might get in fights with his mom about you, or you and she might express concerns about him, and eventually, you and your partner will fight about her always getting in the way of your relationship.
It becomes a triad of utter chaos, and it might not be for you.
If you and your partner are willing to resolve issues and try to amicably keep his mom out of your way, there is hope for your relationship.
Otherwise, because he is so close to her, you might just say enough is enough, and you may feel tempted to move on and find someone worthwhile.
Con #4: He’s her child, not yours.
Sometimes a mama’s boy means that he relies on his mom for everything. Then, when you two find an apartment together, he starts relying on you for everything.
That’s not okay, period.
If you’re dating a mama’s boy and you feel like he’s asking you to do things that he would normally ask his mom to do for him — because she does it out of unconditional love — like doing his laundry or buying his meals every night, tell him he needs to learn to take care of himself.
You have to take care of yourself first, so don’t waste time on someone who treats you like his mom.
If he’s unwilling to change, you might want to give the marriage a second thought. But if he does change, you can at least take his good mama’s boy qualities with you.
Tying the knot with someone who loves his mom can be great because he is more attentive to your emotional needs, he excels in areas where other men lack, and he will love and respect you passionately as his equal.
At the same time, don’t get stuck with someone who pushes you to the side to spend time with his mom or someone who treats you exactly like his mom. A good mama’s boy knows how to treat you like the unique, independent woman you are without making you his second mom.