Blog

The Pros & Cons of marrying a Mama’s Boy

Mama’s boys: they’re either the bane of your existence or exactly the type of man you need in your life. Truth be told, mama’s boys can be attentive, nurturing, and respectful, or they can be your worst nightmare: childish, needy, and neglectful.

We’ve broken down the pros and cons, so what are we waiting for? Let’s see if a mama’s boy is the husband for you.

So, what are the benefits of marrying a mama’s boy?

Pro #1: He knows how to dress himself.

For most men, the thought of having to shop for a wedding suit is a daunting task. Even if your mama’s boy doesn’t have a huge eye for fashion, he will at least have confidence in finding the outfit that works for him.

It’s nice to know that he won’t be annoyed at the thought of picking out a wedding suit, and it’s even nicer knowing he can shop for clothes himself.

He’s done this his whole life by his mom’s side, so when he’s shopping at Black Tie Formalwear, you won’t have to force him into the dressing room.

 

Pro #2: He will treat you right.

It’s no lie that if a man loves and respects his mom, he will love and respect you as his partner.

He’s not ashamed to be the man you need him to be, because his mom taught him how to be a gentleman.

With foundations of progressive morals and good values, his love for his mother will complement your strong feminine spirit.

 

Pro #3: He sees you as his equal.

There’s nothing more annoying and damaging than dating someone who wants to control you and dominate your life. A man who loves his mom wasn’t raised in a male-dominated environment; he understands that people deserve respect no matter what their background is.

He’s willing to let you grow and become your own person through your career and social life; he won’t try to manipulate your decisions, and he will support you through the good times and the bad.

 

Pro #4: He knows the importance of communication.

Women are often more vocal about their emotions than men are. If your future husband is close to his mom, it means they’ve spent a lot of time together and in that time, he’s learned how women express their thoughts and emotions.

He’s ready to listen to what you have to say and be there for you when others can’t, because he knows that’s what you need from him.

A good listener means great communication and an even better relationship.

We’ve looked at the positives; now, what are the drawbacks of marrying a mama’s boy?

 

Con #1: She won’t like you…at first.

You’re walking into his life, about to marry him and take him from his mother forever — and that sounds like the last thing a mom wants for her son.

In her mind, she’s supposed to be the only woman he’ll ever need, and you might notice her acting strangely around both of you when you’re with him.

Don’t take it personally, because she just has to cope with this until she warms up to the fact that he’s starting a new life of his own with you.

 

Con #2: She will always be his mom.

A man who loves his mom more than anything will always look up to her as the ultimate role model. He looks up to you too, but sometimes it might feel like you’re being shoved to the side if he wants to meet her for lunch instead of you. Just remember that you’re his partner, his fiancee, his wife, et cetera — not her — and you’re always there for him when his mom isn’t.

 

Con #3: No one likes to be the middleman.

When you date and eventually marry a mama’s boy, you might begin realizing that this is an unwanted three-way relationship.

The fact is that your man might get in fights with his mom about you, or you and she might express concerns about him, and eventually, you and your partner will fight about her always getting in the way of your relationship.

It becomes a triad of utter chaos, and it might not be for you.

If you and your partner are willing to resolve issues and try to amicably keep his mom out of your way, there is hope for your relationship.

Otherwise, because he is so close to her, you might just say enough is enough, and you may feel tempted to move on and find someone worthwhile.

Con #4: He’s her child, not yours.

Sometimes a mama’s boy means that he relies on his mom for everything. Then, when you two find an apartment together, he starts relying on you for everything.

That’s not okay, period.

If you’re dating a mama’s boy and you feel like he’s asking you to do things that he would normally ask his mom to do for him — because she does it out of unconditional love — like doing his laundry or buying his meals every night, tell him he needs to learn to take care of himself.

You have to take care of yourself first, so don’t waste time on someone who treats you like his mom.

If he’s unwilling to change, you might want to give the marriage a second thought. But if he does change, you can at least take his good mama’s boy qualities with you.

 

 

Tying the knot with someone who loves his mom can be great because he is more attentive to your emotional needs, he excels in areas where other men lack, and he will love and respect you passionately as his equal.

At the same time, don’t get stuck with someone who pushes you to the side to spend time with his mom or someone who treats you exactly like his mom. A good mama’s boy knows how to treat you like the unique, independent woman you are without making you his second mom.

 

Are you engaged or married to a mama’s boy? What are your thoughts? Let us know in the comments below!

6 reasons The Wedding Suit by BTF is perfect for your big day

Shopping for the perfect suit for your upcoming wedding can be the biggest hassle: there are so many brands, fits, prices, and styles to look for. On top of that, the bride and groom’s fashion scheme sets the tone for the entire wedding day. Most importantly, you want to feel comfortable and feel like yourself in your suit — and maybe impress the in-laws while you’re at it.

 

That’s why Black Tie Formalwear created the perfect suit for your big day: The Wedding Suit. It’s what she wants to see you wearing, and you’re going to be glad you did. Here’s why.

Modern fit

Looking back on your wedding day, scrolling through the photos that take you back to that beautiful day, you’re not going to regret wearing a suit that not only looks good and felt great, but stands the test of time.

Let’s face it: a wedding day is a huge chapter in anyone’s life; it’s going to be documented by the photographers, friends, and family. You want to look through the pictures and say, “Wow, we look awesome” and not “Wow, what are we wearing?”

The Wedding Suit’s modern fit and style is GQ chic, sexy enough for your bride but smart enough for the parents, and most importantly, it’s timeless.

Rent or buy

Some guys want to keep their Wedding Suit, whether they plan on using it for other formal occasions in the future, or just store it in the closet for the memories. On the other hand, some men know they’ll only wear it once and never again, and that’s okay. That’s why BTF lets you either buy or rent. Buy it and you can keep it forever; rent it and it will still be worth it.

5 colors to choose from

The modern American wedding isn’t just black and white; everyone knows that every wedding comes with its own theme, color scheme, and style. BTF is living in the now and they’re ready for the future.

So, whether your wedding’s colors are hot pink, teal, grassy green, or canary yellow, BTF offers five glorious neutrals for you to choose from: gray, dark gray, tan, navy, or black. Because in the midst of all the crazy colors of your wedding, you’ll be the color of subtle, neutral goodness that will wow the crowd.

Adjustable waist

No more visits to the tailor to make sure the pants still fit! We’re only human; we gain a little weight and lose a little weight here and there. With all the stress that comes with wedding planning, there’s no doubt the lbs. will jump around each time you stand on the scale. The Wedding Suit comes with an adjustable waistband to make sure that each fitting will still fit. For all the changes that may come, your suit is there to adjust to the changes.

Men and boys

Did I mention that this suit isn’t just for the groom? The Wedding Suit is available for all the men in the wedding party — and the boys, too. If there’s anyone at the wedding who hates dressing up, you better believe it’s the little boys. BTF makes it so easy with the Wedding Suit because of all its great features, and the boys won’t complain. They don’t want to shop for formal wear any more than you do!

Separates

Many formal wear companies automatically give you the pant size that corresponds with your coat size. That doesn’t work too well for a lot of men; we all come in different shapes and sizes, and not everyone’s top half matches with the bottom half.

BTF orders coats and pants separately because who wants pants that don’t fit? You get to choose not only your coat size but the perfect pant size too.

The Wedding Suit is a no-brainer. You want to have options, and Black Tie Formalwear gives you options. You want a suit that looks good and feels even better, and The Wedding Suit fulfills both needs. No more fittings and no more shopping for your dream suit; the Wedding Suit is your dream suit for the day you’ve been waiting for.

5 Ways to up the fun at your summer wedding

Looking for some ideas to up the summer fun at your wedding? Look no further! Here are 5 ways to take advantage of the beautiful weather for your 2017 Summer Wedding!

Summer Wedding Ideas 2017 | Black Tie Formalwear

The Unity Bonfire

While it’s not a traditional staple at a wedding, the unity bonfire is growing in popularity because, well, it’s just fun! Unity candles are typical, but your love burns stronger than a wimpy little candle, right? It’s a raging fire!

 

S’more Fun

After the ceremony wraps up, invite guests to start the reception fun by using your bonfire to create s’mores!

A Sweet & Tipsy Memory

Send home a reusable stadium style cup complete with bendy straw after filling them up with swirly tropical colored daiquiris! Click on the picture above if you’re interested in purchasing these customized stadium cups with your wedding details printed on them.

 

Sparkler Sendoff

What says summer better than sparklers and fireworks? Send off your newlyweds with sparklers and maybe even an entire fireworks show. It’s a great photo op and a fun way to commemorate their new bond, to infinity and beyond! Click the photo above if you’re interested in purchasing a wedding sparkler pack!

Group Games

Another great way to bring families and new friends together is to provide some fun lawn games for your summertime reception. Games like bags, giant jenga or bocce ball are cost effective and customizable for your wedding! Get crafty and you can whip up these games for little to no money and include some of the bride and groom’s favorite themes.

5 Romantic places to propose in Chicago

It’s Summer, Chicagoans! And that means summer love. So we teamed up with the city experts at UrbanMatter to show you five romantic places to propose in Chicago.

 

logan square arts fest | 5 places to propose this summer

Take in the beauty at the Logan Square Arts Festival

No matter your taste, the Logan Square Arts Festival is a feast for the eyes, the soul and even your tastebuds. Sip on local brews while enjoying food, music and of course art (but we all know that the best work of art will be your significant other). For more info on what you can look forward to, visit UrbanMatter’s post here.

 

chicago running | 5 places to propose this summer

Run your heart out

Chicago is a city of movers and shakers and, you know it if you are one, runners! With the miles of paths around the city, it’s hard to choose which direction to take, yet, many times, couples meet while running the miles along Lakeshore. The rest is history. UrbanMatter has compiled “4 Chicago running paths to get your heart pumping”; pick your path and then propose!

city winery chicago | 5 places to propose this summer

A concert at City Winery

Get groovy at City Winery. This intimate setting is the perfect place for music lovers to pop the question. For info on who’s playing this week, check out UrbanMatter’s article here.

 

rose day chicago | 5 places to propose this summer

Wine & Dine on Rose Day

Does your significant other appreciate the finer things in life? Wine, dine and then pop the question in River North on Rose Day. For more information on the happenings of Rose Day, visit UrbanMatter’s article here.

 

lincoln park zoo chicago| 5 places to propose this summer

Can you feel the love tonight?

Lincoln Park Zoo is hosting Adults Night. For $15, you can roam the zoo after the gates close, enjoy cash bars, music and concessions. For animal lovers, this would be the perfect place for a memorable and wild proposal! More info at urbanmatter.com.

 

And there you have it: five romantic places in the city of Chicago to pop the question! Interested in more events happening in and around Chicago this summer? Head over to UrbanMatter for the hottest new happenings in this city we love so dearly.

Leave a comment below if you have another recommended location in Chicago to propose! And if you use any of these suggestions, we’d love to help you get wedding-ready at one of our convenient Chicagoland locations.

Now get out there and pop the question!

The Wedding Suit by Black Tie Formalwear is here!

Here at Black Tie Formalwear, we are always looking for new ways to make the wedding process easier and deliver more value to our valued customers. This year we set out to find a new solution to the age-old problem of outfitting your wedding party in matching suits. That solution is The Wedding Suit!

So what’s been the problem? Some of your groomsmen may want to rent, some may want to buy; some of the party is older, taller, shorter or much younger, etc.

But at the end of the day, you wanted an easier solution to getting your boys in matching suits for your wedding.

That is why we came up with The Wedding Suit by Black Tie Formalwear.

 

The Wedding Suit by Black Tie Formalwear is a one of a kind collection of suits with features and options not available anywhere else! Some of the features that we put in would be things that we realized the customer may not have been thinking about or looking for initially but would still be of great benefit to them.

These features include:

Modern Fit: Designed specifically to give all range of sizes a tailored look.

Rent or Buy: A wedding Formalwear first! Each guy can decide on his own if he wants to rent or buy.

5 Colors to choose from: All of the most popular colors are covered.  The wedding suit comes in light grey, dark grey, navy, tan and black.

Adjustable Waist: A pant feature all guys love. The waistband adjusts for a range of 3 inches.

Men & Boys: Guys come in all shapes and sizes this collection is made with that in mind.  All are available from little boys up to big and tall.

Separates: With most suits you have to take the pant size that comes with your coat size.  That can lead to expensive alterations.  Your coat and pants are ordered separately according to your size.

The Wedding Suit by Black Tie Formalwear

More Benefits:

Just take the suit coat and pant separates part of it for example. Most suits that are sold come automatically with a pair of pants that are 6 inches less than the jacket size. In other words, a 42 coat comes with pants that are 36 in the waist. That is called “The drop”. Well, there are some guys who need a 42 coat for their shoulders but have a smaller waist like 32 or 33 inches. In those cases, that guy must go and pay for expensive alterations to be done on the pants because he will automatically get a 36.

Separates mean that no matter what size your coat is you will get a pair of pants according to what your waist measurement actually is so no alterations are needed on those pants.

Adjustable waist on the pants is another great benefit. Some guys have a waistline that goes up and down a bit.
Now they won’t have to go to a tailor if they haven’t worn the suit for a while and find they’ve gained or lost a few pounds.

Unlike other tuxedo rental company styles the wedding suit has belt loops on the pants. For a suit look a wedding party will usually want to have the guys wearing a belt that matches their shoes. Now they can.

The buy or rent option is important and we’re catering to the entire wedding party on this one. Obviously, we want the Bride and Groom to be happy, but they want their guys to be happy as well.

The groom, groomsman, ushers, dads, and ring bearers Mom’s all like the fact that they can decide if they want to rent or buy individually. The best man may already own a dark grey suit but it doesn’t match the wedding party so he would rather rent instead of buying another dark grey suit. Another groomsman doesn’t have a dark grey suit at home so he would prefer to pay a bit more and buy one at a reasonable price. Usually the ring bearers Mom wouldn’t want to do that because he will outgrow the suit within a couple of months.

The Wedding Suit has the best design feature in a suit or tuxedo. They are all proportioned differently by size to give guys of all shapes and sizes the same great looking tailored fit!

For more info on The Wedding Suit, visit our dedicated page here.

 

The Comprehensive list of How to Tie your Tie

Can you actually tie a tie? Here’s your comprehensive list of the top ways to tie your tie.

Want to learn the Windsor knot? Maybe the Pratt? This website has directions on these and many more.

how to tie a tie website

Next up we have a video how-to. With over 20,000,000 views, this gentleman surely explains perfectly how to tie a classic knot with any style of neck tie.

 

Next, another simply illustrated step by step on how to execute a Windsor Knot:

how to tie windsor knot

More of a reader than picture follower? Here are the directions broken down:

  • 1. Start with the wide end on the right & the small end on the left. The small end should rest slightly above your belly-button (this will vary depending on your height and the length & thickness of your tie). Only move the wide end.
  • 2. Wide end over the small end to the left.
  • 3. Up into the neck loop from underneath.
  • 4. Down to the left.
  • 5. Around the back of the small end to the right.
  • 6. Up to the center, towards neck loop.
  • 7. Through the neck loop and down to the right.
  • 8. Across the front to the left.
  • 9. Up into the neck loop from underneath.
  • 10. Down through the loop you’ve just created in the front.
  • 11. Tighten the knot by pulling down on the wide end. Slide the knot up & adjust.

Still not convinced you know all the ways to tie your tie? Stop in to any of our convenient Chicagoland Black Tie Formalwear locations for friendly service and a smile.

Suit or Tux? The great debate

When it comes to formalwear, there are so many unwritten rules of dress. If you are an Average Joe with a special event coming up, you might currently find yourself in the quandary: suit or tux?

Thus begins our lesson.

Perhaps the very first distinction to note is the definition that separates a suit from a tuxedo. The answer is simple: satin.

tux suit difference as Smart Object

The real decision lies within your intention for the event. Ask yourself this series of questions:

What vibe do you want to send out to the people around you? Is this a dress to impress event with influential people? Does this event commemorate a milestone in your life? You may consider going with a tux. This is the exact reason that most weddings call for a tuxedo. The tux is not worn every day and because of this it retains a reputation of being saved for meaningful events. It makes your date feel special to be with you and your associates to think of you in high regard.

On the flip side if this is merely a day in the life of our Average Joe and a meaningful, yet somewhat mundane formal event, a suit is most likely appropriate. Suits still convey a sense of pride in one’s appearance and can communicate a bold sense of personal style. Suits can be worn on a daily basis and still add a certain flair to your person.

The great news? Black Tie Formalwear can help! Visit any of our convenient Chicagoland locations and our friendly staff would be more than happy to help you find the perfect formalwear for your upcoming event. We tailor your choice, suit or tux, to best fit you .

5 offbeat wedding trends for 2017

Weddings are an age old tradition. While love is timeless, many wedding “must’s” have gathered some rust. Here are 5 offbeat trends to kick off the dust and propel your wedding into 2017!

Give it away

One of the hottest trends for 2017 is a heartwarming one. Many couples are opting to encourage friends and family members in attendance at their weddings to consider donating to a charity registry over receiving a gift for themselves. Interested in learning more? Check out this great resource on charity registries.

5 offbeat wedding trends for 2017

Tasty Trucks

What’s more unique than offering your guests a variety of tasty options served from local food trucks? That’s right! These moveable meals are a cutting edge trend for wedding receptions around the nation. Ready to choose your chow down options? Check out The Chicago Food Truck Finder and reserve yours for your wedding reception today!

 

Indulge in Industrial

These trends are on the rise for wedding venues. Instead of lavish ballrooms, opt for the industrial look. Rent out spaces in old warehouses, factories or even find unique venue spaces on AirBNB! You’ll be surprised what whimsical locations are in your neighborhood. Speaking of whimsical trends…

 

Win with Whimsy

One surefire way to create a memorable wedding is by letting your ideas run wild. Are you a superhero nerd? A passionate vintage aficionado? Obsessed with a cult tv series? Make your passions a part of your big day to make it truly shine and shout “YOU”!

wedding drone | trends 2017

We won’t drone on

Cinematic wedding videos are amongst the biggest trends for 2017. Instead of hiring last year’s wedding videographer, hire one who has experience with drone videography! Check out this great article on The Knot about Everything you Need to Know about Hiring a Drone for your Wedding.

Top Unique Places to get Married in Chicagoland

We’re big wedding goers here at Black Tie Formalwear. Our tuxes have traveled all over Chicagoland and we’ve finally decided to share some of the top places to get married in and around Chicago! Here are a few amazing places in Chicago that you can get married:

The Morton Arboretum

The stunning setting of the Morton Arboretum is the perfect picturesque location for your wedding nuptials.

Top places to get married in Chicago

 

Revolution Brewery

Perk up them ears, boys, because you and your beloved can be betrothed in a BREWERY!

(Photo courtesy of Krefft Szopa, Two Birds Photography)

Revolution Brewery Wedding

 

Thalia Hall

This landmark venue was originally designed as an opera house in 1892. It now hosts concerts by well-known bands (many of which are Chicago natives!). Rock out in this unique setting and have a wedding truly worth remembering!

 

top places to get married in chicago thalia hall

 

The Adler Planetarium

Want a wedding that’s truly out of this world? Get married under the cosmos at the Adler Planetarium in Chicago! This venue offers unique and beautiful spaces, great food, and a view of Chicago’s skyline that will take your breath away.

top places to get married in chicago adler planetarium

PRESS RELEASE – The Knot’s ‘Best of Weddings’

PRESS RELEASE

Black Tie Formalwear NAMED WINNER IN THE KNOT BEST OF WEDDINGS 2017

Eleventh Annual Best of Weddings Awards Honor the Top Wedding Vendors Across America

Chicago, Illinois/January 5th, 2017—Black Tie Formalwear (IS/ARE) pleased to announce that they have has been selected as a 2017 ­­winner in The Knot Best of Weddings, an award representing the highest-rated wedding professionals as reviewed by real couples, their families and wedding guests on The Knot, the leading wedding brand and marketplace.  This is the 7th year Black Tie Formalwear have been selected for The Knot Best of Weddings.

In 2017, only 2% of the 300,000 local wedding professionals listed on TheKnot.com have received this distinguished accolade. In its eleventh annual year, The Knot continues its longstanding tradition of supporting local wedding vendors with The Knot Best of Weddings 2017, an annual by-couples, for-couples guide to the top wedding professionals across the country. To determine the winners, The Knot assessed almost one million reviews across the various vendor categories—venues, musicians, florists, photographers, caterers and more. These winners represent the best of the best for wedding professionals that a bride or groom would want to consider in order to inspire, plan and book their own unique wedding.

The Knot has inspired approximately 25 million couples to plan a wedding that’s uniquely theirs. With a rich history of providing quality content and inspiration to couples, The Knot is making it easier for couples to connect with and book just the right wedding professional to create their perfect wedding day. Eight out of 10 couples come to The Knot where they can be connected to any of 300,000 local wedding professionals across the country. The Knot marries  great technology with trusted content–and a little love–to make planning for the most important day of a person’s life easier and more enjoyable.

For more information about The Knot Best of Weddings and a complete list of winners, please visit https://www.theknot.com/vendors/best-of-weddings.

About Black Tie Formalwear

Black Tie Formalwear is the only formalwear specialist in the Chicagoland area that can boast winning The Knot’s Best of Weddings from 2011-2017 and Chicago’s only Wedding Specialist to be inducted into the Knot’s Prestigious Hall of Fame.  We have set ourselves apart from the competition by delivering award winning customer service, impeccable quality, and a reputation to match.  We carry the latest styles from Ike Behar, Michael Kors, and Allure available in Modern and Slim Fits.  With our nationwide network of a thousand affiliates nationwide, we can service all your out of town groomsmen’s needs.  Stop in and find out what thousands of our satisfied customers already know, Black Tie Formalwear is the elite place to shop for tuxedos and suits in the entire Chicagoland Area.

About The Knot

The Knot is the nation’s leading wedding resource and marketplace that seamlessly engages, matches and connects couples with the right products, services and local wedding professionals they need to plan and pull off their wedding. The trusted brand reaches a majority of engaged couples in the US through the #1 wedding website TheKnot.com, its mobile apps, The Knot national and local wedding magazines, and The Knot book series. The Knot has inspired approximately 25 million couples to plan a wedding that’s uniquely them. The Knot is the flagship brand of XO Group Inc. (NYSE: XOXO), which helps people navigate and enjoy life’s biggest moments—from getting married to moving in together and having a baby. Please visit The Knot online at TheKnot.com and follow on social media: Facebook.com/TheKnot and @TheKnot on Twitter, Pinterest and Instagram.

MAKE AN APPOINTMENT